23 May 2025
Parenting is full of surprises. One day, your child is happily playing outside, fearless and confident, and the next, they’re terrified of the neighbor’s dog, a shadow on the wall, or even their own closet. Where did this fear come from? And more importantly, how do you help them through it?
If you’ve ever found yourself reassuring your little one that there are absolutely no monsters under the bed—at 2 AM—you’re not alone. Sudden and unexpected fears are incredibly common in children, and they can be overwhelming for both kids and parents. But don’t worry! With patience, understanding, and a little creativity, you can help your child navigate these fear-filled moments.
In this guide, we’ll break down why kids develop sudden fears, how you can support them, and when (if ever) to be concerned. Let’s dive in!
Here are a few common reasons for sudden fears:
➡ "I can see that the dark is really scary for you right now. It’s okay to feel that way."
This gives them the reassurance that their emotions are safe with you.
Try something like this:
➡ "Can you tell me what worries you about the bathtub? Is it the water, the drain, or something else?"
This approach gently encourages discussion without making them feel like they have to justify their fear.
It sounds silly, but to them, it’s magic.
By turning fear into fun, you help desensitize them in a low-pressure way.
✅ Deep breathing: Teach them to take "balloon breaths" (inhaling deeply like filling up a balloon, then slowly letting it out).
✅ A mantra or phrase: Something like, "I am safe. Mommy/Daddy is here."
✅ Counting: Have them count to 10 slowly to shift their focus from fear to something practical.
These little tricks can help them regain a sense of control during anxious moments.
For example, if they’re terrified of dogs, start by looking at pictures of friendly puppies. Then, watch dogs from a distance at a park. Eventually, allow them to meet a calm, well-trained dog.
The key? Patience and positive reinforcement. Celebrate small steps instead of expecting an overnight transformation.
🚨 Their fear is interfering with daily life (won’t leave the house, won’t sleep at all).
🚨 They’re experiencing extreme anxiety or panic attacks.
🚨 The fear lasts for months without any sign of improvement.
🚨 They avoid things to a degree that limits their life significantly.
If any of these apply, a child psychologist or counselor can provide coping tools specifically tailored to their needs.
Remember—your child wants to feel safe. With your support, they’ll learn how to manage fears and develop the confidence to face the world. And hey, one day, they might even laugh about how scared they were of balloons (yes, it happens).
Until then, keep the nightlight on if needed, embrace the monster spray, and remember: You’ve got this!
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Dealing With FearsAuthor:
Steven McLain
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3 comments
Jasmine McWilliams
Thank you for this insightful article! It's comforting to know we’re not alone in navigating our children's unexpected fears. Your tips on patience and open communication truly resonate with me. I’ll definitely try to implement them as we support my child through this challenging time.
May 28, 2025 at 4:00 PM
Steven McLain
Thank you for your kind words! I'm glad you found the tips helpful. Wishing you and your child strength and comfort during this time.
Hailey McIlroy
What a valuable perspective! It’s fascinating how children’s fears can emerge unexpectedly. I can't wait to try these strategies and see how my child responds!
May 26, 2025 at 4:34 PM
Steven McLain
Thank you! I'm glad you found the strategies helpful. Wishing you and your child the best as you navigate these challenges together!
Scout McAleer
Empower your child by validating their feelings and guiding them through fears. Open communication and reassurance are key to building resilience.
May 23, 2025 at 4:07 PM
Steven McLain
Thank you for highlighting the importance of validation and open communication; these are indeed essential in helping children navigate their fears and build resilience.